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Armand Beede's avatar

Annabel Ascher: How did I miss this wonderful post for so long.

Please, accept my apologies.

As one who has loved one woman for 53 years (married 51 years), my Nancy is more radiant and beautiful than even when I first met her, when her beauty was enlivened by her joy, which she today carries to the full.

A woman, to a woman or man who loves her, can age magnificently -- not "pretty for her age" but rather "stunning, radiant, beautiful, noble."

As for sex . . . that does not diminish.

A woman is a miracle.

My supreme privilege in life is that Nancy has taught clueless me what it is to be a woman, what it is to be her with all of her beauty and inner joy and to radiate fullness of being. It is ALL there.

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Jan Peppler's avatar

I can relate. At 52, I was hesitant to date someone 10 years younger than me but he persisted and I relented and it was great until after three months of spending almost every day together then finally meeting his friends who absolutely loved me, he announced the next morning, "well, you know this is only temporary - eventually I need to be with someone my own age." Wow. such a sucker punch. He thought I was perfect for him in every way except that I was too old.

I struggled with my looks most of my life. Not wanting the male sexual gaze, I shaved my head twice and then spent over 10 years with it very short. It wasn't until my late 40's that I was finally able to settle into my body and grow my hair long for my own sensual enjoyment. A few months back a friend asked why I didn't just let my hair go grey (as it is lightly starting to do) and I admitted it's because I still like sex - and the long dark hair works in that arena. But at least now I know I'm doing it for my own enjoyment and that makes all the difference.

I wrote a post on this - at least about accepting my own face - a few months back titled, "When Your Face Feels Like Home". Maybe you can relate as well.

Cheers to the Crone Years!

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